Tuesday, June 9, 2009

love and discrimination

Last night I had a very long conversation with 5 Korean women of different ages. ( 22, 24, 26, 51, and ?). We talked about so many things and I really think that it was a very open, intellectual and sincere talk. What were the topics? Of course-the ever favorite of women, L-O-V-E, men, marriage, employment and stuff. I was actually in the hot seat because I'm the one who came here in Korea to meet "my future" mother-in-law.
Last Thursday was the first time to meet J's mom personally. Although I know that she doesn't approve our plans for marriage yet, she treated me well. She cooked my favorite food (camjatang) , she prapared my room, gave me towels and underwear coz she said I'll be staying here for several days, (but i brought many undergarments too! ^^) she gave me medicines for cold, flu and stomachache just in case, since the weather is still a bit cold for me ( 10 degrees in the morning and evening, but 30 at noon). She treated me as if I were her daughter in law. I felt love, warmth and concern and from her. J and I were so happy and hopeful that she'd allow us to get married soon. Bur this is what she said, " why does RayAnne have to be a Filipino? if she is Korean you can get married tomorrow". I'm not a mother but I understand her pain seeing her eldest son marry a foreigner someday which will surely be a straight way to discrimination. Her mother even got a phonecall from her aunt saying words of discouragement and all.
Anyway, I was happy to be talking with open-minded women last night. It's a relief knowing there still are people who believe in true love. It's nice to know that some Koreans are now open to other cultures.
Sigh. I am NOT worried of our future. I know that someday I will walk down the aisle and he's there at the front waiting for me. I JUST feel so bad that J now gets criticisms for choosing me.
I believe that God created one person who is exactly right for you. I know that J is the one for me. I know that he is the one I prayed for.

2 comments:

SI PI EY on Board said...

this is why sometimes i'm wishing I'm not a filipino and not born here in philippines.hehe! am i bad??

SI PI EY on Board said...

i just hate being discriminated because i'm a filipino. bakit di nila ako idiscriminate because i'm pretty?? joke! hehe!
bakit kasi naging ganun pa ang image natin sa ibang bansa